10 Random Facts About Rolonda Rochelle

10 Random facts about me:

  1. Rochelle is not my last name, it’s my middle name.
  2. I am a proud country girl whose roots are planted in Texas and bloomed into a Georgia peach.
  3. I am 5’8” but it seems as if I’ve lost a few inches the last few years
  4. I am a perfectly imperfect Virgo
  5. The eldest of 3 siblings
  6. I’m one of many licensed Realtor in the city of Atlanta
  7. I love everything about Atlanta, with the exception of the traffic
  8. I have 2 tatoos
  9. I fear swimming in deep water
  10. I’ve never dove off a diving board.
  11. I must have a cup of coffee to start my day.
  12. I curse at least five times a day and that’s pretty damn good for me.
  13. The F-word is my favorite curse word.
  14. I’m not good with riddles.
  15. My Favorite weekday is Thursday.
  16. Sometimes I over promise and under deliver.
  17. My favorite flowers are tropical.
  18. I love singing
  19. My favorite dessert is German Chocolate Cake
  20. I hate math, especially when letters are incorporated into the equation
  21. I’m crushing Idris Elba
  22. I love vintage handbags, hats and weathered leather
  23. I am an International traveler
  24. Love capturing memories on camera
  25. I hate the middle seat of an airplane
  26. I love the mixture of old/new, modern/classic. Expensive/frugal
  27. Having the ability to try again after all my failures.
  28. I don’t use compliments as a validation for completion.
  29. I hate restriction.
  30. I focus on solutions and not dwell on complaints and problems
  31. I am resilient
  32. I am creative
  33. I am liberating and liberated
  34. I hate walking on a wet floor in socks
  35. I don’t like people talking over my food/drinks
  36. I don’t like decisions made without my consent
  37. I am constantly reinventing myself
  38. I hate meetings to have meetings
  39. I like meeting with no more than 3 people.
  40. I hate cheesecake
  41. I like boxwood gardens
  42. I’m ok with looking stupid.
  43. I’m ok with not being perfect.
  44. I love hip hop
  45. Favorite colors are Yellow, Amber and brown
  46. I struggle with a few insecurities
  47. I believe in designer marriages – one size does not fit all.
  48. I’ve been married thrice
  49. I am a survivor of childhood sexual abuse
  50. I am a leader and a problem solver
  51. I enjoy fine dining
  52. My son is Trea Young in my head
  53. I should’ve been an attorney
  54. I’m a procrastinator
  55. I love to dance
  56. I can spend countless hours just thinking.
  57. I hate the taste and texture of potato salad
  58. I never smoked weed or any drugs
  59. I’m not uncomfortable with silence.
  60. Favorite movies childhood movies are Once Upon A Time in America, The Way Were, A Star is Born, Sparkle and lady Sings The Blues.
  61. I’ve only been pregnant once.
  62. I prefer 70’s 80’s and 90’s R&B music.
  63. Won my first figure competition at 45 in two categories.
  64. My favorite people are my mom and my daughter
  65. I am a beauty school dropout!
  66. I love wearing heels but my feet don’t hate them.

Wake Up Call: Live it Before it’s Gone

My Wake-up Call

Stop waiting for the perfect time to do things, and make the time perfect for you. To appreciate life, sometimes you have to lose, in order to gain; accept losing old friends and some family members.  Soon you will recognize and appreciate authenticity within yourself and in others; be broke for a while, to understand the value of money, how to make it work for you and you not work for “it”; be single for a while, to improve, love and appreciate yourself; be homeless for a moment to appreciate that it’s not about the size of the house, but about family, comfort, solitude and peace of mind when you walk through the doors. And those sleepless nights are special moments with God, for you to seek direction and know that His plan is way better than what was lost…I just want to get it right this time! 

A New Perspective to Limitless Living

Welcome to my blog, a lifestyle guide to fearlessly, living and loving an adventurous, elite midlife, all with a sense of purpose!

Aging to me has become a trivial matter and I do understand that it’s non-negotiable. However, I also believe that life doesn’t have to unfold in no particular order. It’s heartbreaking that we live in a society where aging isn’t openly accepted; a path is dictated and most women and men internalize the belief and slowly become invisible the older we get. But that’s not my story, and it doesn’t have to be yours either. Society’s way doesn’t work for me and I’m on this quest to redefine what middle aging looks and feels like! Will you join me?

Come along as I share with you things I am passionate about, things that inspire me, and things that will enlighten and keep us all connected.

Overall, my true desire is to motivate you and inspire you to shamelessly embrace your ageless unique self, in this very moment, without any regrets or limitations.

So let’s make the best of it! Live and thrive like there’s no tomorrow! 

Be EASY! 

Defining Freedom

Freedom…….
To not give 2 shits about what you think of me. If I make a mistake, if I talk funny, if I talk too much, if I talk too fast, if I don’t talk enough, if I talk with my mouth full, if I act crazy, if I act silly, if I’m too moody, if I laugh out loud, if my answer is wrong. If I gain a little weight. If I fall asleep with my mouth open. If I trip over my own foot. If I dance crazy. If I sing off-key. If I sing the wrong words to a song. If I sing too loud. If I’m too abrasive. If I change my mind. If I don’t remember shit. If I’m not pretty enough. If I’m to ghetto. If I’m too Black Powerish. If I curse too much. Not intelligent enough. Not holy enough. Not Christian enough. Not classy enough. Not sharp enough. Not polished enough. Not young enough. Not nice enough. Not tall enough. Not small enough. Not smart enough. Not qualified enough. 
Freedom is working on improving a few things that are not on this list. 
Like me or not, I love me some me…and I’m FREE being ME. 

Timeless Aging

Rolonda Rochelle

Embrace The Middle Age of Happiness

As a woman now over 50, I’m really happy to be a part of this new breed of ‘age-nostic’. My desire has always been to make this aging thing look and feel good. I work at it every single day. I’m very careful with the energy I allow in my space, the information filtered through my mind, and the intake of nutrients for my body. 
Unlike the previous generation, I refuse to allow society to define and constrict how I age. To embrace the so-called mid-life crisis with aging should be a privilege and should also be celebrated because not many are blessed to live beyond 50. So when young people stare at my grey strands and limited wrinkles, they ask my age with anticipation. I don’t hesitate. I’m grateful and I’m blessed to offer wisdom.

My new mantra:
I am a woman who doesn’t believes there’s an age limit to living, who’s never too old to kick some ass, and who doesn’t worship what the mirror says but dares to look it straight in the eye.

Me, You, and Anxiety

 

According to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America, anxiety and depression affects 10-20% of the aging population and can reduce our health and quality of life.  Anxiety has played a major role in my life and living with it hasn’t been easy at times. Constantly overthinking and overly analyzing every detail of my life has be exhausting, discouraging and depressing. Even paralyzing.
But through prayer, meditation and therapy, I have the strength to overcome this emotional instability. 
I may not be able to control life’s situations, but I have the capability of controlling how I react to them. I’m still a work in progress and I’m constantly practicing self-care and self-awareness. Regardless of age, race, sex, gender, looks, income or “followers”, mental health does not discriminate. So to those of you in the midst of this silent struggle, it’s ok if all you did today was survive. Just don’t give up. I see you. I feel you. I’m praying for you.

Be Easy!